October 31, 2008

Happy Halloween

Dear Owen,
Happy Halloween! Today was your first holiday. Ever. You looked so cute in your little pumpkin hat even though it was way too big. This year we visited your Daddy at work and you didn't stay awake long enough to greet any trick-or-treaters. Here a peep at you in your first costume:

I love you, Mom

October 28, 2008

Happy Anniversary

Dear Owen,
Two years ago your Mommy and Daddy were doing this:

Now look at us:

I am so proud of the beautiful family that your Daddy and I have created. My life is so different than it was two years ago and I wouldn't have it any other way. I knew that marrying your Daddy would change me. What I didn't know was how it would change my heart. Our marriage has made me stronger, love more, and feel deeper. Each day, I thank the Lord that he is standing, sleeping, or sitting beside me. As I watch him become a father to you, it makes me so proud to call him my husband. When you are all grown up, I hope that you will find someone who makes your life complete. Just as I have with your Daddy.
I love you son,
Mom

October 24, 2008

Past Two Weeks

Dear Owen,
Today you are two weeks old. You celebrated by staying awake from 8:30 AM to 11 AM this morning. I guess you think since you are two weeks old can do anything you want now! (Including trying to pick your head up and look around) The past two weeks have flown by and I think it's only an indication of how quickly you are going to grow up. I am constantly amazed at how rapidly you are changing and how our family dynamic is changing daily. Each day I have more confidence as your mother and it is slowly getting easier to get into our routine. I am sorry the first couple weeks recap will be limited. I think about blogging at all hours, but don't have the energy to translate those thoughts to letters. I know that I will get back to blogging more frequently as time permits. Here is what I remember about the past two weeks. After you were born, we stayed in the hospital until Monday afternoon. During that time, we started to get to know each other and were interrupted. A lot. Mostly by doctors and nurses doing their jobs. It seemed like each time your Daddy and I got to hold you someone else needed you. You had a circumcision, pediatric visits, I had checkups with nurses or doctors, nursery time, or grandparents holding you. Your Daddy and kept you with us every night except for the last when we finally broke down and sent you to the nursery. It's true what they say about the lack of sleep. It will get to you. Plus I was still feeling pretty sore from the operation and having to sleep in the hospital bed. It was really uncomfortable and I was anxious to get home. In fact, I was pretty anxious about everything. It's funny how over the moon you can be about having a child and at the same time have intense "overwhelming" feelings. Nobody really ever filled me on that part. Thank goodness for your Daddy and Grandma. Every time I had a moment, they were right there to support me. I literally don't know how I could have survived the first weeks without them. We got home on Monday and made it through our first night. We went to the pediatrician on Tuesday morning and your weight was down to 5lbs 14oz. Unfortunately, my milk wasn't coming in and we had to start supplementing with formula. At this point, both of us were getting pretty frustrated with breastfeeding. My dear friend, Emily, gave us the gift of seeing a lactation consultant named Linda. We meet with her on Thursday and she gave me tons of helpful advice which included starting me on a herbal supplement. I continued to pump up to 10 times a day in hopes of stimulating my milk production. I promised myself that I wouldn't give up on the idea of breastfeeding for at least two weeks. By Wednesday of this week, I still wasn't making any milk and had to face reality. It was a extremely difficult decision to stop pumping and switch to straight formula. But feedings were getting to a point where both of us were extremely anxious and it was taking so long. By the time I finished, we had to start right back over again and it wasn't healthy for either of us. Of course, we were still giving you formula so you have gained weight and were not going hungry. Here a shot of a happier moment:


On Saturday you had your first bath:

It was a sponge bath. You weren't too happy with the process but hopefully you will get used to it and learn to love it. On Sunday, we went on our first stroller ride. It took 30 minutes of prep time to walk 6 houses. But it was well worth the effort to get outside into the fresh air and sunshine. Your Grandma Lumsden left for home on Tuesday. It was a very sad day. We were all upset and miss her terribly. Hopefully she can come back soon. Really soon. Like tomorrow would be nice.

Your Daddy has stayed home with me the rest of this week. He goes back to work on Monday and we will be on our own for real. The good news is that I am able to drive and we have been on a couple outings, so I think I might be able to handle things. I am sure that it will get easier day by day. I hear you stirring in the next room, so it's off to make a bottle for me!
Love,
Mommy

October 21, 2008

Birth Story


Dear Owen,
It feels strange to start your letters Dear Owen, instead of Dear Munchkin. We have spent so long wondering whether or not you were a boy or girl, what you were going to look like, and how your personality would develop. Now you are here with us and it is truly amazing. I promised that I would write a letter devoted to your birth story. It might be a little long winded and most everyone we know has already heard it, but I want to preserve it for you. Every year on my birthday, your Grandma relives the story of my birth and I want to pass on the same tradition to you. Here goes:
We started off Thursday morning with an early call from the hospital. They told us to come on over to get started. All the grandparents had arrived or were scheduled to be here that day. We checked in about 7:30 AM and didn't get a room until close to 9 AM. By then, we were all anxious and nervous. I had two labor and delivery nurses that day, Lisa and Sara. They were both as nice as could be and made the process a lot less scary. They started me on the pitocin drip and an IV antibiotic. I didn't do so well with the IV process, but we can skip that part of the story. At this point, I was already having some mild contractions and the medicine didn't really ramp it up. After lunch, Doctor Davis stopped by and decided to start me on the higher dosage of medicine to help things progress. He also checked to see if he could break my water, but your head wasn't down far enough for him to feel comfortable doing that. We would learn the next day that a fibroid tumor was actually blocking the birth canal and this was the reason your head never came down far enough to eventually be born. About 3 PM that afternoon Dr. Fogelman (the on-call doctor) stopped in to check on us. She checked again to see if my water could be broken and then suggested that she put in a Foley balloon to open up the cervix. Basically, it's a balloon is inserted and then inflated with water to help dilate the cervix to about 3 cm. Once inserted, you leave it in until it falls out or is removed. I had that procedure done and it was a little scary. I sort of lost it for a moment and when I came to, I had oxygen and all sorts of nurses hovering around. After a few minutes, I was back to normal and we continued to wait. Around 8 PM, Dr. Fogelman came back to check on us. At this point, the medicine really wasn't changing much. In fact, your system can become saturated with it and become overloaded. Her suggestion was to take me off the drip for the night allowing me to eat something, walk around, and try to sleep. In the meantime, she would put another medicine inside me called Cervadil which gets absorbed into the blood stream. It is supposed to encourage dilation as well. I was able to eat half a sandwich, walk around the halls a few laps, the nurse inserted the medicine, and then I was given a sleeping pill. Everyone went home except your Daddy. He slept beside me the entire time. I think I slept for a couple hours. Close to 1 AM, I woke up having contractions which were getting stronger. I knew something wasn't right about 3 AM when the nurses were coming in every ten minutes or so to have me change sides or positions. Your heart rate was dropping every time I had a contraction. The nurse finally was concerned enough to call Dr. Fogelman into my room at 5:30 AM. We woke up your Dad and I was examined again. The contractions were coming pretty regularly now but were still a few minutes apart. Dr. Fogelman told us that we have a couple different options at this point. I could go back on the drip to see what happened, we could go ahead with a C-section, or we could stop the process all together which would essentially send us home to wait. She gave your Dad and I a few moments to talk things out. At which point, we called all the Grandparents and told them to get to the hospital ASAP. When Dr. Fogelman came back into the room to finish discussing our options, my water broke. Just right there while I was laying in the bed. It was a totally bizarre thing and I was like "Oh, something just happened!" Right away, Dr. Fogelman said that we would know in about 15 minutes if we were having a C-Section. Your heart rate kept dipping down with each contraction, so we were on our way to the OR. It happened in a matter of minutes, there were so many doctors and nurses flying around. I hardly had time to process it. But once they decided you had to come out, there was no messing around. All the grandparents arrived in time and I was able to kiss them before the surgery. Your Daddy got all suited up for the operation. They took me in the operating room and I was scared. Not really for me, but just worried about you. Everyone took excellent care of us. All the doctors and nurses were especially nice and supportive. Doctor Davis was also there to help deliver you. I went into the operating room at 7:30 AM and you were born at 7:48 AM. You weighed 6 lbs 13 oz and were 20 inches long. Doctor Davis told me that you didn't have a lot of hair before we even knew if you were a boy or a girl. Doctor Davis pulled you out and yelled "It's a boy" and he held you up for us to look at. Then you and your Daddy were whisked away. Of course, I started crying and all the nurses were so nice to me. Once you were cleaned up, you and your Daddy came back into see me. It was then that they told us that the cord was wrapped around your neck 3 times and that I had a fibroid tumor blocking the birth canal. It was a completely overwhelming emotional experience. All of the anticipation, anxiety, and excitement coming together. After I was put back together, I went down to recovery. You were able to meet all your family who were waiting at the hospital. Your Daddy brought you into recovery for a while where I finally held you. My sweet boy. Our Son. You were finally here. How beautiful you looked and how instantly I feel in love. We spent the next four days in the hospital together where I started to recover and we started our relationship. Those days and the past two weeks will be chronicled in a future letter. Right now, I hear your stirring which probably means that you need to be changed and feed. I know that now since I am your Mom and all. See, I am getting the hang of things already, right?
I love you son,
Mommy

October 17, 2008

1 Week Old

Happy

Unhappy

Love, Mom

October 15, 2008

Home Sweet Home

Dear Owen,
We have a son! Your Daddy and I could not be more proud. I am sorry to say that this letter will be brief, as I just have a moment to write you in between feedings and everything Owen going on in our house. But I promise to update you with your birth story when your Daddy and I get into a little more of a routine and I can spare a few minutes to get in all the details. Your arrival into this world was quite an event on Friday morning and you are surrounded by so many people who love you. I never imagined that I could have such intense feelings of love for another person. You are our world and we welcome you to it.
I love you very much son,
Mommy

October 10, 2008

Owen James Beale

Owen James Beale arrived this morning at 7:48AM, weighing 6 lbs. 13 oz., 20 inches long. Owen is healthy. He and Mommy are doing wonderfully. All of his tests have been passed with flying colors. Lots of pictures are posted at http://www.rosswilkin.com/ and there will be more to come. They are also on our own photo site http://jasonbeale.phanfare.com/.
Love,
Daddy

October 9, 2008

Another Update

Well, nothing has really changed so far. It looks like we'll probably be waiting until tomorrow to meet you! In the meantime, go to http://www.rosswilkin.com for some photos from the day.
Love, Daddy

Quick Update

Hey Munchkin,
We're here at Women's Hospital. They started the Pitocin drip at 9:30 this morning and hopefully the contractions will start soon. The nurses are very nice and everyone is anxiously awaiting your arrival. See you soon.
Daddy

October 7, 2008

Green Light

Dear Baby-
I have been trying to write this letter all day. In case you can't tell by the title of the letter, your lungs are mature and we received the green light from Doctor Davis to go ahead with the induction on Thursday morning! I called Maternal Fetal Care @ 8 AM when they opened to see if they had any news for us. The receptionist told me that something had come across the fax late yesterday, but the Doctor wouldn't be in until around 9 AM to read it. I left my number and thought about going back to sleep. About 2 minutes later, Doctor Davis called me. He told me that the lungs are mature and we can ahead with the induction. I said, "How weird, I just called and Doctor Conners wasn't in." "Oh, I know I am at the hospital and decided to break into Doctor Conners office to get the results myself." How resourceful is he! Anyway, he asked me if preferred tomorrow or Thursday to come into the hospital. Of course, I chose Thursday to give my family any extra time to get here. After a fury of phone calls and a shortage of hotel rooms (thank to A&T Homecoming), everyone has been notified and travel arrangements made. By the time I processed everything and ate some lunch, it was time to go to work. Then our internet/email was down at work, so this is first chance I have had to update. It looks like we will finally meet you sometime on Thursday or Friday. It feels very surreal and almost like I am having an out of body experience. I am going to go into work tomorrow for a few hours and then spend the rest of the day getting any last minute details worked out for Thursday.
See you soon!
Love,
Mom

October 6, 2008

No Real News

Dear Baby-
I just spoke with a nurse from Doctor Davis's office. She informed me that they have the results from one half of the test, but not the other. So the plan is to wait until morning and see what the second half tells us. Stupid second half. Stupid waiting.
Love,
Mom

Amniocentesis

Dear Munchkin,
We are back at home after a successful amnio test this morning. We arrived at the specialist and I was promptly put on a monitor. This time, I needed to be monitored before and afterwards. Then we went into the ultrasound room and I was just a bundle of nerves. Everything went perfectly smooth during the procedure, which was mildly uncomfortable, but not painful. I didn't even know that she was going to start until the needle was already inside my tummy. Of course, I kept my eyes closed the whole time. She drew three vials of fluid for the lab. Dr. Conners mention that the fluid was cloudy which generally indicates that the lungs are mature. I hope the lab confirms that diagnosis. So now, I wait this afternoon (at home, no work today) until 5 PM. Once Doctor Davis calls me, we should know what the next step is. My prayer that you are here sooner than later! I will write as soon as I have any more information. I love you,
Mom

October 5, 2008

Anxious

Dear Munchkin,
The repeat amnio test is scheduled for 9 AM tomorrow. I am nervous, excited, anxious, and hopeful for good results. It has been tough to be patient this weekend and we might certainly be waiting a while longer to meet you. Wish us luck tomorrow and say a few prayers that we will be holding you soon.
Love,
Mom

October 3, 2008

Thwarted *Updated*

*Repeat Amnio test scheduled for Monday morning 9 AM*
Dear Munchkin,
We are already home from the hospital and it's only 8:15 AM. That's because they couldn't do the amnio test this morning. We arrived at the hospital @ 7:15 AM all prepared for the big event. The ultrasound technician took some measurements (BTW- your new estimated weight is 7.5 lbs) but could not find a pocket of amniotic fluid big enough for the needle. I have plenty of fluid, just not in a big enough space away from you, the placenta, or the cord. Doctor Davis decided that it wasn't worth the risk to have the procedure done right at this moment. What he recommended is that we be referred to Maternal Fetal Care in the hospital and they will try to repeat the test either this afternoon or Monday. Now, I wait for their office to open and my Doctor's office will schedule an appointment. It's just such a let down. I considered the fact that you might not be ready, but I never thought that we wouldn't have the chance to find out. And so the waiting game continues......
I love you,
Mom

October 1, 2008

Doctor Appointment

Dear Munchkin,
Yesterday your Daddy and I went to see the doctor. Hopefully it will be my last office visit, but I am trying not to get ahead of myself. I have been experiencing some pelvic pressure in the past few days, so I was anxious to be examined. I wanted to know if there was anything "going on" with you. Of course, I had an NST test and everything looked good. It took a little longer than normal since you are running out of room to twirl around in. I saw the mid-wife, Tanya, who is super awesome. I really like her a lot and she made me feel totally comfortable. I have been feeling a little crazy these days and she seemed to really understand where I was coming from. It turns out that I am dilated 1 cm which means that the labor process is beginning. It doesn't mean much, since you can walk around slightly dilated for a long time, but at least my body is starting to get some signals that the time is near. I am also having random contractions throughout day which are starting to be a little painful. They don't have a real pattern or intensity yet, so I am not too concerned. I believe that I will make it through until Monday without any problem. Tanya explained what might happen next week in great detail. As of right now, I am feeling very positive and optimistic that you will be making your debut sometime early next week. She also explained that the induction process can take a while, so we should be aware that will be a long day on Monday. I can't believe it's already Wednesday and I still have so much to do. Tomorrow marks 36 weeks and you will be considered a full term baby. Wow. Your Daddy and I are so excited to meet you, we are nearly beside ourselves. Speaking of you, I need to run off to pack the hospital bag so I can cross another thing off my baby-might-coming-soon list!
I love you,
Mom